Dear Ellie,
I'm a pregnant teenager. The father of my baby wants nothing to do with
either one of us. When I was born I was kept from knowing who my
biological father was. I have a guy friend who is willing to sign the birth
certificate so the child has someone to call daddy. I haven't told my
parents yet, and I'm afraid of what they will say or do. Also would it
be wrong for me to keep the real father out of the baby's life? Help!
-Scared Teen Mom
Dear Scared Teen Mom,
I became pregnant at a young age also. I know it can be a scary thing especially when you think your alone in it. I had to be honest with myself and be honest with my parents and my boyfriend. Every situation is different. Thankfully I had understanding parents and an amazing boyfriend by my side, but some aren't as lucky. I have also seen a few of my friends go through it alone. It's hard but it can work if you find yourself a great support system. I believe pregnancy is something to not be afraid of and hidden. Its a happy experience to go through and will change your life for what I believe is amazing. If the biological father wants out then let him because he will be missing out on a great experience. When the time comes and your child asks who their real father is, it is completely up to you. They will have many questions and will come to you asking so please be prepared. Hopefully it will not come to that and he will come to his senses, but he may also be scared and be in denial right now. As for your parents I would tell them because 6 months down the road you will not be able to hide it unless you're one of those lucky few who don't ever show throughout their pregnancy. I hope I have helped a little and hope you have a healthy and enjoyable pregnancy.
Sincerely,
Ellie Mae
Saturday, April 13, 2013
Saturday, April 6, 2013
In-Law Child Advice Issues
Dear Ellie,
I'm having issues with my in-laws. I know it's normal to have issue's with in-laws, but ever since I've had my daughter they have an opinion about everything. They keep telling me and my husband how to raise our child, how to hold her, how to feed her, how to get her to take a nap, and the list goes on and on. Every time we go over to their house or they come to our house I hear it. I honestly don't know what to do anymore, my mother says to take it with a grain a of salt and my husband thinks I'm over reacting. I really need some help because I really am about to lose it and I know if I do I'm going to be portrayed as the bad guy.
-In In-Law Hell, CT
Dear In In-Law Hell,
This is an issue many new parents have from friends and family members. They think they know what's right because they've gone through it. They may have gone through it but don't realize every situation and child is different. I have this issue with one of my friend's who tells me and my husband all the time, "you'll see." Yes it is highly annoying, but your mother is right with saying "take it with a grain of salt." Honestly that's all you can do without causing a fight. You and your husband are the only ones who know what is right for your child and how to raise her. Everyone can have an opinion but they need to realize it's your child not theirs. You may just have to sit them down and tell them how you feel about what is going on. Tell them you appreciate the advice but if you need it you'll ask. Just remember to be polite about it and to say thank you for the advice. I hope this helps you and good luck!
Sincerely,
Ellie Mae
I'm having issues with my in-laws. I know it's normal to have issue's with in-laws, but ever since I've had my daughter they have an opinion about everything. They keep telling me and my husband how to raise our child, how to hold her, how to feed her, how to get her to take a nap, and the list goes on and on. Every time we go over to their house or they come to our house I hear it. I honestly don't know what to do anymore, my mother says to take it with a grain a of salt and my husband thinks I'm over reacting. I really need some help because I really am about to lose it and I know if I do I'm going to be portrayed as the bad guy.
-In In-Law Hell, CT
Dear In In-Law Hell,
This is an issue many new parents have from friends and family members. They think they know what's right because they've gone through it. They may have gone through it but don't realize every situation and child is different. I have this issue with one of my friend's who tells me and my husband all the time, "you'll see." Yes it is highly annoying, but your mother is right with saying "take it with a grain of salt." Honestly that's all you can do without causing a fight. You and your husband are the only ones who know what is right for your child and how to raise her. Everyone can have an opinion but they need to realize it's your child not theirs. You may just have to sit them down and tell them how you feel about what is going on. Tell them you appreciate the advice but if you need it you'll ask. Just remember to be polite about it and to say thank you for the advice. I hope this helps you and good luck!
Sincerely,
Ellie Mae
Sunday, March 31, 2013
Downgrading Boss
Dear Ellie,
I was at work today and got told I'm an idiot by boss. Only because I didn't fully understand what she meant. She had told me to use the tape recorder every time a customer comes to the register because the audio doesn't work on the cameras. I figured they just wanted to make sure we were offering our specials like we should. Turns out we were suppose to play it on the intercom when someone pumps at the gas pump before paying. Well she basically called me an idiot because I miss understood her directions. I tried to explain to her if maybe she worded it better then maybe I would have done that instead of recording over and over. If we do something wrong on our shift we get a phone call early in the morning and get yelled at. Now we get written up for something that is not preventable. I'm sick of being downgraded. I want to call human resources but I fear if I do she'll make my life at work a living hell, like dock my hours. I heard stories about it but recently noticed it was true. One of the guys I work with called human resources on her and got his hours docked all the way down to 4 hours. He decided to not even show up because it wasn't worth the gas and quit. I don't want to quit but I don't want my hours docked. I really need this job. If you or any of your followers have advice I'd love to here it because I am stuck.
-Stuck Between A Rock And A Hard Place, FL
Dear Stuck Between A Rock And A Hard Place,
No employer has the right to treat you like dirt. It is against the law to dock someones hours because you're mad at them. Sounds like she needs to grow up and mature, it's the workplace not high school. I would call HR anonymously and inform them what is happening and try to get other employees to do the same. Tell your District Manager also what is going on. If you have to prove it tell them to send some one undercover as an employee to see what is going on or record your conversations. If you feel like you need a new job, go for it and start looking because it's not healthy to be downgraded like that all the time. I hope everything works out for you.
Sincerely,
Ellie Mae
I was at work today and got told I'm an idiot by boss. Only because I didn't fully understand what she meant. She had told me to use the tape recorder every time a customer comes to the register because the audio doesn't work on the cameras. I figured they just wanted to make sure we were offering our specials like we should. Turns out we were suppose to play it on the intercom when someone pumps at the gas pump before paying. Well she basically called me an idiot because I miss understood her directions. I tried to explain to her if maybe she worded it better then maybe I would have done that instead of recording over and over. If we do something wrong on our shift we get a phone call early in the morning and get yelled at. Now we get written up for something that is not preventable. I'm sick of being downgraded. I want to call human resources but I fear if I do she'll make my life at work a living hell, like dock my hours. I heard stories about it but recently noticed it was true. One of the guys I work with called human resources on her and got his hours docked all the way down to 4 hours. He decided to not even show up because it wasn't worth the gas and quit. I don't want to quit but I don't want my hours docked. I really need this job. If you or any of your followers have advice I'd love to here it because I am stuck.
-Stuck Between A Rock And A Hard Place, FL
Dear Stuck Between A Rock And A Hard Place,
No employer has the right to treat you like dirt. It is against the law to dock someones hours because you're mad at them. Sounds like she needs to grow up and mature, it's the workplace not high school. I would call HR anonymously and inform them what is happening and try to get other employees to do the same. Tell your District Manager also what is going on. If you have to prove it tell them to send some one undercover as an employee to see what is going on or record your conversations. If you feel like you need a new job, go for it and start looking because it's not healthy to be downgraded like that all the time. I hope everything works out for you.
Sincerely,
Ellie Mae
Monday, March 25, 2013
"Bad" Mom....No You Are A GOOD Mom!
Dear Ellie,
I've been recently told I'm a unfit mother because I chose to get a job to help out with bills. My child unfortunately got an infection recently while I was at work. I was told it was my fault because I chose work over my child. I called out the day I had to go to the hospital with my child and then decided to go work the next two days that I had to work so I wouldn't lose my job. Of course my child's health and safety was my top priority above my job and I decided to quit my job. It hurts to think that people honestly think of this about me. I'm not a bad mother, it was not my fault at all that my child had gotten an infection, all I wanted to do was to help out. Has anyone gone thru this? Need some advice.
-"Bad" Mom
Dear "Bad" Mom,
First off I just want to say you are NOT a bad mom, so please get that out of your head right away. You wanted to help provide for your family and all mom's want to do that. There is NOTHING wrong with that. Do not listen to the negative people and just hold your head high. I do not know the circumstances of your child's infection or how they had gotten it, but I'm sure if it was preventable you like any other mother would have tried their hardest to prevent it. Many people can think the negative about you but you are the one who knows the truth. I applaud you for trying to help out your family, many people wouldn't even try. All you can do now is take care of your child and get them better, and delete the negative. You do not need the negative. Keep staying positive and remember it's your family, it's your decision and your significant other's decision how to provide and care for your family. Remember people will not know how hard it is to make the decisions you make on a daily basis until they walk in your shoes and understand what and why you have decided the things you have. It doesn't matter what they think, do what is best for you and your family. Take care and I hope and pray your child gets on the road to a quick and healthy recovery.
Sincerely,
Ellie Mae
I've been recently told I'm a unfit mother because I chose to get a job to help out with bills. My child unfortunately got an infection recently while I was at work. I was told it was my fault because I chose work over my child. I called out the day I had to go to the hospital with my child and then decided to go work the next two days that I had to work so I wouldn't lose my job. Of course my child's health and safety was my top priority above my job and I decided to quit my job. It hurts to think that people honestly think of this about me. I'm not a bad mother, it was not my fault at all that my child had gotten an infection, all I wanted to do was to help out. Has anyone gone thru this? Need some advice.
-"Bad" Mom
Dear "Bad" Mom,
First off I just want to say you are NOT a bad mom, so please get that out of your head right away. You wanted to help provide for your family and all mom's want to do that. There is NOTHING wrong with that. Do not listen to the negative people and just hold your head high. I do not know the circumstances of your child's infection or how they had gotten it, but I'm sure if it was preventable you like any other mother would have tried their hardest to prevent it. Many people can think the negative about you but you are the one who knows the truth. I applaud you for trying to help out your family, many people wouldn't even try. All you can do now is take care of your child and get them better, and delete the negative. You do not need the negative. Keep staying positive and remember it's your family, it's your decision and your significant other's decision how to provide and care for your family. Remember people will not know how hard it is to make the decisions you make on a daily basis until they walk in your shoes and understand what and why you have decided the things you have. It doesn't matter what they think, do what is best for you and your family. Take care and I hope and pray your child gets on the road to a quick and healthy recovery.
Sincerely,
Ellie Mae
Friday, March 22, 2013
I'm back!! :)
Hey everyone! Sorry about being M.I.A. I've been having issues with my accounts and passwords, but everything is fixed now. How is everyone doing? I hope everyone is doing much better than me at the moment. I feel like I've been on a roller coaster these past few months with everything going in my life at the moment. Well I hope everyone has a good weekend.
Sunday, January 6, 2013
Money Saving Tips
When trying to save money put all your change into a jar. Do not touch the change! When it fills up cash it in and place the money in an envelope. Place the envelope in a safe spot. Remember not to spend the savings unless it is an actual emergency.
Saturday, January 5, 2013
Potty Training
Potty train your child when you know he or she is ready. You don't want to start too early. If your child is not ready, it could lead to a long hard time trying to potty train them. Start slow and ease them into it. You'll know if they are ready or not. Good luck!
Potty Training Tips from Parents.com
Potty Training Tips from Parents.com
Friday, January 4, 2013
NEW YEAR
It's a new year & maybe a new you? What
are your resolutions for 2013? Remember YOU can only change yourself for
YOU, not for someone else. HAPPY 2013!
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