"Bad" Mom....No You Are A GOOD Mom!

Dear Ellie,

I've been recently told I'm a unfit mother because I chose to get a job to help out with bills. My child unfortunately got an infection recently while I was at work. I was told it was my fault because I chose work over my child. I called out the day I had to go to the hospital with my child and then decided to go work the next two days that I had to work so I wouldn't lose my job. Of course my child's health and safety was my top priority above my job and I decided to quit my job. It hurts to think that people honestly think of this about me. I'm not a bad mother, it was not my fault at all that my child had gotten an infection, all I wanted to do was to help out. Has anyone gone thru this? Need some advice.

-"Bad" Mom


Dear "Bad" Mom,

First off I just want to say you are NOT a bad mom, so please get that out of your head right away. You wanted to help provide for your family and all mom's want to do that. There is NOTHING wrong with that. Do not listen to the negative people and just hold your head high. I do not know the circumstances of your child's infection or how they had gotten it, but I'm sure if it was preventable you like any other mother would have tried their hardest to prevent it. Many people can think the negative about you but you are the one who knows the truth. I applaud you for trying to help out your family, many people wouldn't even try. All you can do now is take care of your child and get them better, and delete the negative. You do not need the negative. Keep staying positive and remember it's your family, it's your decision and your significant other's decision how to provide and care for your family. Remember people will not know how hard it is to make the decisions you make on a daily basis until they walk in your shoes and understand what and why you have decided the things you have. It doesn't matter what they think, do what is best for you and your family. Take care and I hope and pray your child gets on the road to a quick and healthy recovery.

Sincerely,
Ellie Mae