Dear Ellie,
I'm a pregnant teenager. The father of my baby wants nothing to do with
either one of us. When I was born I was kept from knowing who my
biological father was. I have a guy friend who is willing to sign the birth
certificate so the child has someone to call daddy. I haven't told my
parents yet, and I'm afraid of what they will say or do. Also would it
be wrong for me to keep the real father out of the baby's life? Help!
-Scared Teen Mom
Dear Scared Teen Mom,
I became pregnant at a young age also. I know it can be a scary thing especially when you think your alone in it. I had to be honest with myself and be honest with my parents and my boyfriend. Every situation is different. Thankfully I had understanding parents and an amazing boyfriend by my side, but some aren't as lucky. I have also seen a few of my friends go through it alone. It's hard but it can work if you find yourself a great support system. I believe pregnancy is something to not be afraid of and hidden. Its a happy experience to go through and will change your life for what I believe is amazing. If the biological father wants out then let him because he will be missing out on a great experience. When the time comes and your child asks who their real father is, it is completely up to you. They will have many questions and will come to you asking so please be prepared. Hopefully it will not come to that and he will come to his senses, but he may also be scared and be in denial right now. As for your parents I would tell them because 6 months down the road you will not be able to hide it unless you're one of those lucky few who don't ever show throughout their pregnancy. I hope I have helped a little and hope you have a healthy and enjoyable pregnancy.
Sincerely,
Ellie Mae
Saturday, April 13, 2013
Saturday, April 6, 2013
In-Law Child Advice Issues
Dear Ellie,
I'm having issues with my in-laws. I know it's normal to have issue's with in-laws, but ever since I've had my daughter they have an opinion about everything. They keep telling me and my husband how to raise our child, how to hold her, how to feed her, how to get her to take a nap, and the list goes on and on. Every time we go over to their house or they come to our house I hear it. I honestly don't know what to do anymore, my mother says to take it with a grain a of salt and my husband thinks I'm over reacting. I really need some help because I really am about to lose it and I know if I do I'm going to be portrayed as the bad guy.
-In In-Law Hell, CT
Dear In In-Law Hell,
This is an issue many new parents have from friends and family members. They think they know what's right because they've gone through it. They may have gone through it but don't realize every situation and child is different. I have this issue with one of my friend's who tells me and my husband all the time, "you'll see." Yes it is highly annoying, but your mother is right with saying "take it with a grain of salt." Honestly that's all you can do without causing a fight. You and your husband are the only ones who know what is right for your child and how to raise her. Everyone can have an opinion but they need to realize it's your child not theirs. You may just have to sit them down and tell them how you feel about what is going on. Tell them you appreciate the advice but if you need it you'll ask. Just remember to be polite about it and to say thank you for the advice. I hope this helps you and good luck!
Sincerely,
Ellie Mae
I'm having issues with my in-laws. I know it's normal to have issue's with in-laws, but ever since I've had my daughter they have an opinion about everything. They keep telling me and my husband how to raise our child, how to hold her, how to feed her, how to get her to take a nap, and the list goes on and on. Every time we go over to their house or they come to our house I hear it. I honestly don't know what to do anymore, my mother says to take it with a grain a of salt and my husband thinks I'm over reacting. I really need some help because I really am about to lose it and I know if I do I'm going to be portrayed as the bad guy.
-In In-Law Hell, CT
Dear In In-Law Hell,
This is an issue many new parents have from friends and family members. They think they know what's right because they've gone through it. They may have gone through it but don't realize every situation and child is different. I have this issue with one of my friend's who tells me and my husband all the time, "you'll see." Yes it is highly annoying, but your mother is right with saying "take it with a grain of salt." Honestly that's all you can do without causing a fight. You and your husband are the only ones who know what is right for your child and how to raise her. Everyone can have an opinion but they need to realize it's your child not theirs. You may just have to sit them down and tell them how you feel about what is going on. Tell them you appreciate the advice but if you need it you'll ask. Just remember to be polite about it and to say thank you for the advice. I hope this helps you and good luck!
Sincerely,
Ellie Mae
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