Scared Teen Mom

Dear Ellie,

I'm a pregnant teenager. The father of my baby wants nothing to do with either one of us. When I was born I was kept from knowing who my biological father was. I have a guy friend who is willing to sign the birth certificate so the child has someone to call daddy. I haven't told my parents yet, and I'm afraid of what they will say or do. Also would it be wrong for me to keep the real father out of the baby's life? Help!

-Scared Teen Mom

 Dear Scared Teen Mom,

I became pregnant at a young age also. I know it can be a scary thing especially when you think your alone in it. I had to be honest with myself and be honest with my parents and my boyfriend. Every situation is different. Thankfully I had understanding parents and an amazing boyfriend by my side, but some aren't as lucky. I have also seen a few of my friends go through it alone. It's hard but it can work if you find yourself a great support system. I believe pregnancy is something to not be afraid of and hidden. Its a happy experience to go through and will change your life for what I believe is amazing. If the biological father wants out then let him because he will be missing out on a great experience. When the time comes and your child asks who their real father is, it is completely up to you. They will have many questions and will come to you asking so please be prepared. Hopefully it will not come to that and he will come to his senses, but he may also be scared and be in denial right now. As for your parents I would tell them because 6 months down the road you will not be able to hide it unless you're one of those lucky few who don't ever show throughout their pregnancy. I hope I have helped a little and hope you have a healthy and enjoyable pregnancy.

Sincerely,
Ellie Mae